Part Two: The Success
Matrix Now that we have established that success is relative to you and that success and strong self-esteem go hand in hand lets move on to complete the picture. Let’s discuss the SUCCESS MATRIX. This simply is the complete you. You can not be successful in only one area of your life. For example, you can have all the money in the world, but if you have no one to share it with what do you have? The success matrix covers all aspects of you the person. We chose the term “success matrix” because they are all interconnected. You will see as you progress in reaching the true success that they all depend and influence each other. That is why this website exists. Success can be had by anyone who desires it. This website was published to help you “break it down” into manageable parts. We call it “the six steps” but it is actually broken down into 6 general categories. These categories are a necessary element to properly deal with success. That is to say, if you have achieved balance in all these areas, then you are successful. That is the purpose of these six steps; balance. So what are the six steps that make up the SUCCESS MATRIX?; Financial, Physical, Spiritual, Intellectual, Social, Hope.
So, now you have the six steps, what do you do with them? How do you apply them to achieve success? Well, we must look at each category and determine what it is you want to achieve in each of these areas. So the FIRST STEP is to set Goals for each category or matrices.
When people think of goals and success, they usually think of financial goals. This is on most of the minds of people we talk to.
You can not have confidence and a strong self-image if you do not have your finances in order. Finances are a starting point for feeling good about yourself. Finances are the matrix where we focus in on the THINGS of our lives, the homes, cars, trips…anything that requires money. When setting goals, this is the area you would include all the possessions you want to own in your life.
This by far is where the big dreams come into play. Where you think of your future as being stress less because you own everything free and clear and the burden of having to pay those nasty monthly bills are gone forever. These are goals like owning a beachfront home in the Turks and Cacaos. Or buying that May Bach you always see Donald Trump driving. But be warned, we are not talking about going into debt just so you can reach this goal and say that you’ve achieved one of your dreams. No…. we are talking about steps, and the six steps to success are exactly that. They are not the six leaps to success or the six jumps to success. They are steps. And steps are meant to be taken one at a time. The phrase “one day at a time” taken from the 12 step program is very applicable here. Meaningful success, one that affects your self-esteem, must be taken in steps. And it will be up to you to determine the path you chose to success. What we are endorsing here is a success that comes on a daily basis. Your self-image will increase every day by achieving small, meaningful goals.
Is getting in shape important to you? How about your health? Do you want to be healthy? Now that is a loaded question because I know the answer SHOULD be a resounding yes! Who doesn’t want to be in the best shape they can be? By being in top form for your age group is living life to the fullest. The physical goals are the easiest to set, but one of the most difficult to reach. In many cases, extenuating factors, such as low self-esteem, play a big role in physical conditioning. Be careful in setting physical goals. It is highly recommended to visit your doctor before beginning any diet or exercise program.
Remember it’s easy to develop bad habits, and it’s hard to develop good ones. From that statement, let me say that setting physical goals can be one of the most rewarding goals of all because we are dealing with HABITS. In most cases, bad habits in eating and exercise are what’s preventing you from getting in optimum physical shape. I know it sounds simple; develop a good habit of eating healthy and then you’re halfway there. Replace the bad with the good. I have a friend who told me he never eats a salad because salads taste awful. And he is right. They taste awful BECAUSE he never eats them. In other words, your body will crave what you have ALREADY EATEN. It craves the food that you put in your body in the past. Start eating salads ( yes forcing yourself!) and you will develop a craving form them. Just like you can crave french fries, you can crave a salad. It’s HABIT FORMING.
And the good news is that you DON’T NEED MONEY to get into shape.
Setting a spiritual goal – what a noble concept. What a lofty idea. And yet very esoteric. You can’t touch it, see it, or hear it. Yet many people since they can “feel it”. How do we go about setting spiritual goals? Do you even believe that we have a spiritual dimension to our existence? This website is not dedicated to convincing you that you do. (that is for another day. I believe that YOU MOST DEFINITELY HAVE A SPIRITUAL DIMENSION).
So for the purposes of this website we have to assume that your spiritual side of your life requires goals. That is, you need to improve your spiritual life somehow. An improved spiritual life will make you a better person, it will balance out your whole Success Matrix. Developing spiritual goals will help you through the tough times. It will give you hope. Remember the success we are after is complete, not in just one area.
How do you set goals for spirituality? How do you set goals for hope? Why even talk about hope? Well, the answer is like most things in life is easy, but VERY hard to accomplish.
No, hope is different. Hope gives us a vision for the future. Hope is a positive looking word. It has such a nice, soft cuddly sound to it. Yet it is so hard to attain. I guess the best approach to hope, as it relates to setting your goals, would be increasing your faith. Faith in something greater than yourself. I believe strongly in faith. I believe that faith and hope go hand in hand. If you have hope for the future, you have everything. You are unstoppable. If you are unstoppable, then you can achieve anything.
My whole mission is based on my faith. By helping YOU reach your goals, I will reach mine. I believe that the service of others is the greatest expression of hope and faith that there is. My faith teaches me that by giving my talents to help others succeed, my success is inevitable. My success is predicated on my ability to give who I am to others. My mentor in this philosophy is Mother Theresa. Pure. Simple. Faith.
Like me, you have unique gifts and talents. Find out what they are. Make that one of your goals. Discover your talents, and then give it away. Give it to others. Use your talent to help others succeed. It will be the easiest and most joyous thing you’ve done. Give your natural talent to help others. I believe these gifts and talents are God-given. You were born with them. They are the ones that you are supposed to focus on and then pass on to others. Since they are God-given they will also be the ones that will come the easiest and bring you the most joy and satisfaction. Your goals should focus on discovering these talents, these God-given gifts. Find your gift, and you will find peace and contentment in all that you do.
How can you be “improving” your life if your not “improving” your brain’s capacity to think? Intellectual goals can be as simple as reading a book to going back to school for your Ph.D. You can not be successful without having your intellectual goals met. I liken it to someone who marries for looks alone. You may have all your physical needs met but boy it would get boring fast. You would not be able to share a joke. You would have nothing in common to discuss. Intellectual stimulation will keep you young. It is part of our life, don’t neglect it.
For many of you, this may be the easiest goal to set, let alone understand. Setting social goals requires that you understand that you are not an island. It ties in nicely with the Success Matrix because your net worth is your network, the people you know will add to your personal net worth. Good family relationships will add to your feelings of self-worth. It is easy to set those big money goals, but what is wealth without loving friends and family. I’m sure many of you have heard the epitaph of a successful businessman who said: “I wish I had spent more time at the office”.
This is last on the list for a reason. Everybody wants a good career. A good career can help you in every area of your life. Your self-esteem can be enhanced by a good career. Your financial health will be affected by a good career. This has to be the toughest one to define. For many, a good career equals good self-esteem. But flip that around and a lousy career will mean low self-esteem. Feeling good about what you do every day whether you’re a stay at home mom or a CEO of a major corporation is a must for strong feelings of self-worth. However, to depend on your career to define your self-worth is a time bomb. Watch out, a career is only what you do, NOT WHO YOU ARE.