Part One: Success Explained
This talk is for those who used to look at others thinking “how did they do that?” It is for those who have tried something and wonder why it didn’t work out. It may also be for those who feel trapped either in their workplace or at home. And lastly, it may be for those who are feeling anxious or depressed and need some light shone on their darkness. Basically, you wouldn’t be reading this unless you’re attempting to make a change in your life. For that very thought, I congratulate you. It is a big step to want to “change” some aspect of your life. In some ways, desiring change is also admitting that what you’ve done in the past didn’t work…and that, my friend, is a humbling experience. Yet being humbled, by whatever means, is a great thing. It is probably the biggest motivator for life change there is. So what is this thing called success? Why do some people seem to “have it” while others do not? Well, let’s start with what Webster’s Dictionary says it is:
- The achievement of something desired planned or attempted: attributed their success in business to hard work.
- The gaining of fame or prosperity: an artist spoiled by success.
- The extent of such gain.
- One that is successful: The plan was a success
Now, from this definition, it seems to point to the fact that someone desired something; then planned out the execution of that desire; then by either achieving or attempting to achieve the completion the plan, that is then deemed to be a “success”.
But for some of you, you might think, “I’ll be successful if I can just complete my high school diploma…” or “If I could just pay-off of all my credit card debt…then I’ll be successful”. Well, this kind of thinking makes success sound like it is a fleeting thing. Meaning that you could have it one day and the next its gone. That is just not the case. If it is fleeting, then it is here one day and gone the next. Well, this website is set up to let you know that YOU CAN BE SUCCESSFUL ALL THE TIME. You have all the abilities and talents necessary to be successful right now. All you have to do is put a plan of action in place. This website can help you do that. We want to help you succeed. We are not just talking about setting goals but putting a complete GOALS PROGRAM together to help you get everything you want out of life.
Now that we know Webster’s definition of success, let us ask “what does success mean for YOU? Success is relative. I’ll say it again…. success is relative. It is a state of mind. What may be a success to you may not be a success to someone else. Determine “what is the success” for you and these following six steps will be easier for you to apply in your life. For me to tell you what success is, or even suggest what it is would be a disservice to you. The internet, TV infomercials, and many a modern day motivational speaker will certainly try to “sell” you what success is. And of course how much it will cost to get. True success does not “cost” you anything. It will, however, in the end ultimately “pay” you in the feeling of peace and contentment. I know these are big, lofty words that can mean different things to different people. But we need a starting point. We need to begin with some mutually abiding foundation from which we can build our house of “success”. And that foundation is asking yourself the question, what does success mean to you?
So before beginning the six steps to success, figure out what success really means for you. Not for what it means to your neighbor or friend. But what it really means to you. Spend time and think what you value most, what is truly important to you. Take the time to look at what you do now. Because in most cases what you do now determines what you consider important and “valuable”. Then ask yourself why you do those things. And from this exercise, you will formulate what’s important to you. Write it down. Write down what you value, what’s important. This will help you develop your thoughts on the big picture of your life. These steps will not work unless you commit yourself and write them down.
Before starting let’s also get one thing clear. Feeling successful has a lot to do with self-esteem. People who feel successful usually have high self-esteem. Self-esteem ( or the lack of it) can be brought on by past experiences. For some of you, life has taken a beating on you and your self-esteem may be low. That is fully understandable. What we want to address is that setting goals, and then achieving them will INCREASE YOUR SELF-ESTEEM. That’s right, increase your self-esteem!! The six steps will ultimately help your self-esteem and your overall confidence. Just think about it, if you set goals that are important to you, then achieve them, you are successful. It is a building block to add your house of confidence. Once you’ve got the foundation of self-worth, you can move into other areas that interest you because you have a solid base from which to work.
Remember to increase your self-esteem you have to envision it in your mind first before it becomes reality. You can not envision something you know nothing about. The action of setting a goal and the SEEING yourself complete that goal is the action that will bring about a strong self-image. Because you can envision the completion, you can envision the pride of accomplishment, the feeling of success and increased self-worth will come into view in your mind first. The action will follow and the reality of a strong self-esteem will make itself evident in your life.
For those that have never set any goals, it is easy at first to dream up big, wild goals. Ones that are quite frankly unrealistic.